last night almond joy had to decide how to tell the Sadie Hawkins boy that something new had come up. she was so torn and conflicted. she had obviously found SH boy interesting and kind and attractive or she wouldn't have asked him to the dance, but since then, there's been a lot of IM'ing with another guy in her class. then there was the dance and SH boy got sick and they came home early and he wasn't back in school until just yesterday. when he saw her, he gave her a cd of the songs they'd heard on the way to the dance, making it even harder for her to say anything.
she wanted me to tell her how she could go out with the IM boy (too?) or what did she have to say to SH boy? nothing she could say to him would have been kind enough. I felt so bad for both of them. she was scared and sad, but when she got off the phone, she was also very excited about going out with the new guy.
was there anything better I could have told her other than to be upfront and honest? it's not going to be easy? being kind is really important. being true to oneself is also important.
I just wonder how lunch went. they all eat together.
I really wish I'd learnt that lesson in high school. I hope it went okay today.
Posted by: lucy | December 06, 2006 at 09:00 PM
My high school boy is trying to advise his little sister in the ways of being kind, but I'm not sure how well she heard it. It's hard to figure out how to relate to other people without losing ourselves in the process.
Posted by: Songbird | December 07, 2006 at 07:04 PM