I hurt my baby
took all the air out of him. regretted it the minute I jokingly said something. should have known that he was nervous and this was the worst thing I could have said.
I've cried. he's still hurt and trying to figure out how/why that happened.
I'm just still kicking myself.
Ouch -- I'm sorry....
Maybe he'll have to learn the skill that is invaluable in marriage -- being able to really forgive and forget....
Posted by: Inside the Philosophy Factory | April 30, 2008 at 02:13 PM
I can't even tell you the number of times I've had to apologize to my kids -- for doing something thoughtless and hurtful, saying something thoughtless and hurtful, letting a flash of anger out as something thoughtless and hurtful.
They remember few hurts and a few more apologies. Mostly they think it was "cool" that I said "sorry."
Posted by: Julie | April 30, 2008 at 05:17 PM
Oh, I'm so sorry for you both -- a tough day. You'll both get over it, especially with a heartfelt apology, and it is a good lesson to learn that sometimes people we love screw up and need to be forgiven, but that's not a fun lesson to learn.
Posted by: What Now? | April 30, 2008 at 06:04 PM
That's hard on both of you--I hope that you're able to forgive yourself and he you, and you establish the connection that feeds you both.
Posted by: Susan | April 30, 2008 at 07:35 PM
I wish I could say I don't know what you mean...but it's true that admitting we're wrong or sorry does make a difference in healing (for us and for them).
Posted by: Songbird | April 30, 2008 at 08:10 PM
we're better. I apologized last night, but he wasn't ready. this morning was tense - he explained some things. by late afternoon today, he was willing to forgive me. long day for both of us.
thanks for your kind words today. I needed them.
Posted by: timna | April 30, 2008 at 08:45 PM
hugs
Posted by: joanna | May 01, 2008 at 05:04 PM